Here’s how to relieve stress and its awful effects

Here’s how to relieve stress and its awful effects

    Being a human is complicated. You are frustrated, you encounter stress and you can even get a depression on your head. You ask yourself how to relieve stress quite too often.

Especially when you’re not a kid anymore. These things are sparking up everywhere in your daily life: stressful work, trust issues in your relationship, the feeling of not getting enough of anything, the thought that you deserve more. It’s like humans are not built to be happy. Yet, I think, is sadness the default mode of humans? Well,if so, it can be changed, for sure. I mean, everywhere I saw ‘default’ in something, I had the option of changing it. Why should life be any different? Could frustrations be something good? It’s, like, the most customizable thing ever.

    Before beginning, let’s have a look at each of these three states of being. If I sum up the next paragraphs, I may tell you that all of these are nothing else than chemical reactions in your brain, but let’s not be so cynical.

How to relieve stress and what it is.

    Stress is a reaction that your body has to external stimuli, usually. When stressed, the body thinks it is under attack and switches to ‘fight or flight’ mode, releasing a complex mix of hormones and chemicals such as adrenaline, cortisol and norepinephrine to prepare the body for physical action. This causes a number of reactions, from blood being diverted to muscles to shutting down unnecessary bodily functions such as digestion.

    After a deeper research, I managed to find a study to show you a photo of how it looks like, so here you go (I’m nice, I know):

    Beautiful, isn’t it? Your brain activity.. Which you can use in your benefit. You don't benefit from stress.

    If you want me to tell you ways to relax your mind, here are some. Calm down, it's your brain which you control, not the brain that controls you. Stress management, try it (basically you just chill and tell yourself that you have nothing to be stressed about). You have no real reason to be stressed about something. Yet, everyone is. The stress you’re feeling cannot bring anything more than negative outcomes, on the short run and on the long run. Remember Timon and Pumba? “Hakuna Matata!”.     And something more. You can find quick stress relievers everywhere, but the quickest one is breath. Inhale deeply and slowly for like 6-7 seconds, hold it in 3-4 seconds and exhale again for 7-8 seconds and repeat it like 5 times, but don’t think of anything. Done, this is how to relieve stress and anxiety and everything else.

What is depression?

    Depression (major depressive disorder) is a common and serious medical illness that negatively affects how you feel, the way you think and how you act. Fortunately, it is also treatable. Depression causes feelings of sadness and/or a loss of interest in activities once enjoyed. It can lead to a variety of emotional and physical problems and can decrease a person’s ability to function at work and at home. We can say that depression is just a biological reaction to stress.

Some state that a depressed brain looks just like a normal brain. They know the neurochemicals play a role, but the phenomenon is still not fully understood.

    This is yet another example explaining you are in the control. Your neurochemicals are the main problem, probably. If this is the case, you have control over them. Why would you accept feeling deeply sad, alone and unmeaningful? You can see from the image above, feeling depressed does not light your brain, which is not good. Your brain activity is low. More than this, the state controls your thoughts. Just take control over it, it’s not like you’re all set on ’whatever, default’ mode at all times. You’re the one controling the machine, not it controlling you, think of this. And do one thing, breathe.You can do it, it’s not thet hard. This is how to relieve stress really quick (sorry if I sound annoying, but it has to get into your mind).

What is frustration?

    Isn’t frustration the same as stress, or something? - you may ask. Well, kind of. Stress necessits an external stimuli. It activates when not so good things happen to you, like a dying friend or parent or dog, the work environment, waiting in line when you’re on a tight schedule, etc.

Being frustrated is just a response to that, as well as anger, sadness, anxiety. Of course, bad things never come alone, therefore Adrenaline and stress hormones levels are joining the party to give you the worst day. So you develop behaviours to cope with this (same with depression) as there are smoking, eating too much, drinking too much...you know, trying to feel good and fulfilling your soul with food or booze and a perfect fitting cancerous cigarette. You know, how to relax 101.

    So, this is another bad thing happening to you, because you don’t hold control. You know, there is thins thing called Emotional Intelligence which summed up means 4 things:

    1) Self-awareness: Knowing, understanding and being able to manipulate what

you think and feel and why you do it

    2) Self-Management: Understanding how you feel in any situation, and acting in

control. Like when your friend eats the last piece of chocolate which you kept for after the dinner.

    3) Empathy: well, being empathic, you know? Being there for your peers when

they need you and being able to understand how they feel and directing them towards feeling better

    4) Social skills: basically, being nice to others, so they won’t hate you, mostly.

    So, as another bit of how to relieve stress, you have these 4 things that will help you with anger, frustrations, depression and even having a crush who doesn’t like you back. This is depressive. I can tell you that I escaped the trap of having a bad crush using these things. Well, the first two of them, at least. You can relax your mind and get rid of any feeling you want if handled correctly.

    To conclude, stress is a major cause for a lot of behaviors that have a negative impact on your body on the short term and on the long term. It can be expressed in a lot of feelings, but I chose to write about two of them: depression and frustrations. Best way to get rid of any of the two, learn how to relax. Use stress management. How? Well, you could look it up, but i give you 2 pieces of advice: 1 breathe deep and slow a few times and use your self awareness to monitorize and control your thoughts, and there is your stress relief.